I’ve never been in a relationship without experiencing some level of attraction outside of the aforementioned relationship.
I’ve been scoffed at for this. It seems pretty normal to me, though. There is nothing really that turns attraction to “off” in the brain, aside from the usual monogamous promise of faithfulness, when entering a new relationship.
I used to fight my attractions. Just having them, dancing around in my head, felt all sorts of wrong. I got over it. You should too.
There is nothing wrong with being attracted to people, especially different types of people.
You are learning & so am I.